I just want to say thank you to you who have commented, messaged or texted me in response to my latest blog post, Liz’s New Journey to Peace, Joy and Wellness. It was something that was very difficult for me to share. But since I did, I have received an overwhelming response and outpouring of texts, Facebook messages and comments from people who have experienced or are going through similar things or struggles with the same symptoms. (And I would have never known!) Almost immediately after I shared the post on my Facebook page, I started getting responses from my friends filled with love, support, encouragement, prayers, and similar stories about their struggles. Suddenly I felt like I wasn’t so alone anymore. I was truly touched and brought to tears by some of your messages. I can’t describe how therapeutic that experience was for me.

Often times when we’re struggling on the inside, our defensive reaction is to put on a happy face and to pretend that everything is all good. Growing up, I learned not to express or confront any negative emotions such as pain or sadness, and instead to hide and suppress them. This pattern obviously carried over into adulthood and is something I’m working through. I’m working on giving up those feelings to God instead of containing them and feeling I have to deal with them all on my own, in private. This will cause isolation from the world and those around you. I know I’m not the only one who does this. Also, letting go of “perfection”, which doesn’t exist and is all EGO. And being ok with being emotionally vulnerable in front of your friends and people you trust.

I just want to say that struggling with something and feeling alone in it, perhaps feeling like others wouldn’t understand what you’re feeling — is one of the worst feelings ever. The truth is that no one is perfect and we ALL have struggles. That’s what makes us human and what makes the good parts of life worthwhile. So if you feel alone in your struggles, I want you to know that you’re not alone. And I want to encourage you to find someone that you can share your feelings and what you’re going through with — even if it’s a stranger. There are online forums for EVERYTHING out there — every problem, disease, affliction, condition. I guarantee you can find someone somewhere who can relate or at least understand your troubles. I want to encourage you not to keep whatever is bothering you to yourself and suffer alone anymore.

I also believe that we are meant to use our pain and struggles to help others. Think of how you can encourage others who may be suffering with the same things, just by opening up about it and letting them know they are not alone in their struggles, and that you understand what they’re going through. I see that pain and struggle produce strength, character and perseverance, and if you let it, and are willing to share and be vulnerable, you can let it be used to transform others too.

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. (Romans 5:3-4)

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